Dear Families,

With just 13 school days left of the 2023 year and 31 days until Christmas, I’m sure most members of our community feel a collective sense of not having enough time to tick things off the To Do list while we fly to the finish line of no lunchboxes and locating misplaced hats. With the pace of added social activities and extracurricular concerts, we can find ourselves constantly focussed on getting where we need to be rather than enjoying being in the moment. The uncertainty that comes with a change of year level, teacher and classmates can also cause children, and some parents concern. Well-respected author and director of Positive Minds Australia (and ex-St Joe’s parent) posted recently on her page some tips to help parents navigate and best support your child through the uncertainty and eventual advice about their new class placement, and I have included it below for families to read.

CLASS PLACEMENTS: Helping children adapt to a new Teacher and peer group in 2024.

As the school year draws to a close, a sense of uncertainty is in the air and families are turning their attention to leaving the knowns of 2023 behind as they head towards the unknowns of 2024.

Humans crave certainty. Change often feels unnerving - especially when change and uncertainty relates to your child. If you’re worried about your child’s class placement in 2024, you’re not alone.

It’s perfectly natural to have a preference for a particular teacher and peer group and normal to feel worried or disappointed if they don’t get them.

A child’s emotional adjustment to leaving this year’s teacher and classmates, while preparing for next year’s teacher and classmates can be heavily impacted by your feelings about it.

As parents, we have the power to set the tone. Our optimism or pessimism is contagious.

Here are some ways you can help make the transition smoother for your child if you or they didn’t get the news you were hoping for.

1. Listen calmly. Hear out your child’s feelings. Let them get it all out and listen quietly. Avoid trying to ‘fix’ their feelings by adding your own feelings, judgements and solutions. Feelings need to be expressed, processed and moved through constructively.

Children don’t have to be immediately excited about their teacher, to learn from that teacher in the long run. The same goes for classmates. They don’t have to have existing bonds or common interests to build them in the future. In fact, the more children they get to know with a broad range of personalities, the better for their growing social intelligence.

The feelings you see in that initial moment aren’t necessarily reflective of how they will feel long term - especially if you don’t react with them.

Humans need time to process change. When news is fresh, we can go through many feelings of resistance and uncertainty. That doesn’t mean that what’s coming is necessarily bad. You can warmly and gently say something like, ‘you really hoped for XYZ and you’re disappointed. I understand.’ Allow time for them to process your words of support. Don’t rush them. Try to avoid talking while their logical brain is still compromised because emotions are still high. Listening calmly and quietly is golden.

2 Support your child to build a connection with their new teacher. A mutually respectful connection with their teacher matters. Notice positive qualities in their teachers and see what your child might have in common with them.

3. Avoid looking uncertain about the placement in front of your child. If they are unsure, they will naturally look to you to help them feel confident and calm. This doesn’t mean you have to ‘fake’ being excited if you’re not (they’ll see through that) but it does mean you do your best to be cool calm and collected. If you can’t be hopeful (yet), try and be neutral. Children tend to use parents as an emotional compass when they experience uncomfortable feelings. If you’re struggling, express your feelings with another adult to get things off your chest. Work out what you’re worried about. Try and notice as many things that are good about what’s ahead.
4. Before you greet them on the day they receive their placement, remind yourself to try and trust the process. There are multiple layers to how class placements are allocated that couldn’t possibly be explained completely. School leaders and staff put in huge amounts of thought into student personalities, learning styles, teaching styles, class size, who asked to have who in their class and much more that is happening behind the scenes we’re not aware of.

Schools genuinely do their best with this decision. If you’re upset, it’s possible they are too, but when weighing everything up, had no other direction to turn. Supporting your child’s teachers and school is a crucial part of your child’s psychological and academic success there.

5. Your reaction to next year’s teacher news is hugely important to your child. Your confidence, hopefulness and regulated emotion is crucial. If you’re not happy, try and keep these feelings in the back ground and discuss them privately with another adult. Children are too young to take on their parent’s worries.

If there is a genuine problem, take logical action, without involving your child in the stress associated with it.

Your child’s emotional connection to and respect for their teacher and school is deeply connected with your connection to and respect for their teacher and school.

More things to keep in mind:

Children learn, grow and strengthen in resilience by being with a broad range of personalities and communication styles. When things are unrealistically perfect and easy, they can get stuck in their comfort zone.

To build confidence for later on in life, you need to experience a broad range of peers and situations and discover that through talking about feelings, asking for help, establishing boundaries and building your social emotional skills, you can handle a lot of what life has in store. Be there to hear their thoughts and feelings out, but above all show you have confidence in your child to get through.

If situations are dangerous, toxic or damaging your child’s learning and psychological health, always talk to school staff and if necessary, other experts to ask for, and seek help. Seek out the support of a health professional too if necessary.

On the surface, do your best as your child’s most important adult and leader, to show your confidence that your child will be safe and cared for, always.

Do something heartwarming and compassionate for yourself. If you’re upset and stressed it’s not because you’re weak or incapable. It’s because our children hold our hearts and when they hurt, we hurt. You need to look after yourself first and foremost.

The advice above is general and based on general child development, resilience and confidence research. It is written with the very best intention, to help you. Without knowing your individual circumstances it’s not intended to replace your expertise as a parent or the expertise of educators and health professionals. Always seek tailored expert advice if you feel your child’s physical or psychological health is at risk in any way.

Wishing you all the very best with class placement news.

Love, Madhavi Nawana Parker

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Staffing

I am disappointed to advise our families that Mrs Stacey Webb has made the difficult decision to resign from St Joseph’s School. This is effective immediately due to personal reasons. Stacey has a been wonderful asset, quickly making positive connections with students and our community. We are currently advertising for a new music teacher and have appointed Bonnie Crofts until the end of the year to continue our Music program and ensure our classes enjoy and perform at Carols night to the best of their potential.

In the coming weeks, I will formally thank staff who are departing, once staffing is finalised. However, I wanted the community to be aware so we can prepare farewells etc.

Basia Steciuk – Basia has been at St Joseph’s Kingswood for 14 years. Leaving our community has not been an easy decision for her as she has so many connections with our school as an employee and parent of Lucas and Matthew, past students of our school. A change of schools is significant for Basia for her career and to be closer to home. Basia has held many roles at St Joseph’s Kingswood, including being an active part of the leadership team.

Tia Della Pace (Reception), Adele D’Angelo (Year 1), Lucia Mitchell (Italian), Megan Simpson (Office) Sr Jasmine (Chaplain) and Emily Casey (ESO) who have been on contracts and very ably taken on roles in the school.

I am very happy to be welcoming some familiar faces back to St Joseph’s Kingswood, having enjoyed a year at other schools, as well as some new members of staff. I’ll be in contact regarding this later in the term.

The class structures for 2024 will be:

A great deal of consideration has gone into the best class structure for each year level.

Instrumental Teachers and Students

I would like to thank the wonderful instrumental teachers for their dedication to our budding musicians at St Joseph’s Kingswood. It was wonderful to see the many children at the recent and upcoming instrumental evenings, feeling so proud of their progress. Music is a significant program at St Joseph’s Kingswood, the instrumental teachers play a pivotal part in its successes. Congratulations to all the students and well done to all the parents for supporting and encouraging throughout the year.  I look forward to listening to the percussion group at the Mitcham Carols evening.

I look forward to connecting with many of you in the final weeks at our end of events.

Keeping Well!

We have been experiencing increased numbers of unwell children. I remind all families to ensure you keep children home if they are unwell at all.

In all things Charity,

Jodie Higgins